Teens, Tweens and Online Safety Part 2: “Sexting”

“Sexting” refers to sending photos or video with a cell phone that are inappropriate, such as people who are naked or engaged in sex acts. According to a recent survey, about 20 percent of teen boys and girls have sent such messages. Middle school sextersThe emotional pain it causes can be enormous for the child in the picture as well as the sender and receiver–often with legal implications.

Research has found that people may behave with fewer inhibitions when they are interacting online or sending texts. Teenagers can be impulsive and not think about consequences. Add the teenage factor to the technology, and the result could be embarrassing, regretful, ruin reputations and future opportunities, or felony charges.

Teens may believe that if they send sexy photos using an app like Snapchat, the images are deleted within 1-10 seconds. But a photo can be taken of the Snapchat screen and sent out to multiple other people’s phones and social media. And once an inappropriate photo is on the internet, it is impossible to delete every version.

1.5B2Parents must begin the difficult conversation about sexting before there is a problem and introduce the issue as soon as a child is old enough to have a cell phone. Here are some tips for how to begin these conversations with your children:

  • Talk to your kids, even if the issue hasn’t directly impacted your community. “Have you heard of sexting?”
  • “Tell me what you think it is.” For the initial part of the conversation, it is important to first learn what your child’s understanding is of the issue and then add to it an age-appropriate explanation (see next bullet).
  • Use examples that are appropriate for your child’s age. For younger children with cell phones who do not yet know about sex, alert them that text messages should never contain pictures of people–kids or adults–without their clothes on, kissing or touching each other in ways that they’ve never seen before. For older children, use the term “sexting” and give more specifics about sex acts they may know about. For teens, be very specific that “sexting” often involves pictures of a sexual nature and is considered child pornography.
  • 1.5B4.1Make sure kids of all ages understand that sexting is serious and considered a crime in many jurisdictions.
  • In all communities, if they “sext”, there will be serious consequences, quite possibly involving the police, suspension from school, and notes on the sender’s permanent record that could hurt their chances of getting into college or getting a job.
  • Experts have noted that peer pressure can play a major role in the sending of texts, with parties being a major contributing factor. Collecting cell phones at gatherings of tweens and teens is one way to reduce this temptation.
  • Teens facing chargesMonitor headlines and the news for stories about “sexting” that illustrate the very real consequences for both senders and receivers of these images. “Have you seen this story?” “What did you think about it?” “What would you do if you were this person?” Rehearse ways they can respond if asked to participate in inappropriate texting.
  • Encourage school and town assemblies to educate parents, teachers and students.

 

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