Positive Behavior Intervention and Support: Words of Relationships

In the classroom, relationships are everything!  The relationships you begin to develop with your students on the first day and continue to nurture throughout the year set the stage for deep trust and understanding. When teachers make an effort to connect with each student individually, it tells them, “You are worth my time” and “I care about you.” We believe getting to know students personally is a key to reaching them educationally. These caring relationships are the foundation of a strong Positive Behavior Intervention and Support (PBIS) program.

20What Best Practice Language (BPL) can teachers use to establish and maintain positive relationships with their students? Teachers should consider using Words of Relationship. Words of Relationship help to maintain an emotionally safe and secure environment where students trust you and they know where they stand.  These words demonstrate a desire to work with students to break down walls, build bridges and reach common ground! They establish and nurture meaningful bonds with students by showing them they are worth it and they are valued! Use these words when you talk with students individually—”heart to heart”.

“How are things going? Can I help you with anything?”

“You are important to me, and I want to hear what you have to say.”

“I’m interested in what you are doing, and I’m looking forward to getting to know you and your family this year.”

27It might seem impossible at first to make a positive connection with every student you teach. But remember, our goal is to relate to them in some way and for them to relate to us in some way. The following BPL examples create connections and help build positive relationships between teachers and students.

“What are your plans after graduation? I know you have talked with me about going to college. Where have you applied? I’m happy for you, and I am excited to find out which college you choose to attend. Let me know if I can help you.”

“From time to time this year I am going to have personal conferences with you. These conferences will be opportunities for you to share problems or concerns you have, and we can discuss what we can do together to help you be successful.”

“When you get to school if you are feeling angry you need to come and tell me. We can decide together how to solve your problem.”

“What’s wrong? This isn’t like you.  Do you want to talk about it?”

“You might not know this about me but when I was in school, I (fill in the blank).”

This post is part three in a series of posts on what Positive Behavior Intervention and Support (PBIS) “sounds like” in the classroom. The original post can be found at: eyeoneducation.com